Chris Brasure here. Let’s talk about traumatic brain injuries and guilt, and the two things that are very important to know.
Guilt is common: Listen to them
First, guilt is very common when it comes to traumatic brain injuries. And second, as somebody who is caring for a traumatic brain injury victim, I have some advice: Let them talk without interruption and without feedback or trying to fix.
A few years ago, I had somebody come to me asking for help. As we started talking, the person left town, went to another part of the state. He was at work and suffered a traumatic brain injury, then came back home.
And what I found out talking with this person is the incredible amount of guilt they had: “Why did this happen? I’m such a burden on my family. It was my fault. I shouldn’t have left.”
All of these emotions dealing with guilt became very evident, but only after spending some time, the person was able to talk about it and finally, it all came out. Fortunately, we were able to get some help for the person and they’re doing much better now.
The two things you must know
But the point I’m making is that there are two things to know. First, how common a feeling guilt is. And second, as somebody listening to them talk about their feelings, how important it is to just let them talk.
Now, if you’re like me, and you’re having problems with uncomfortable silences, you want to say something. Or you want to try to fix it. But what you’ll find out is that if you will just let the person talk, you will find out so much about why they feel the way they do, that you can get help after they tell you these things.
Now, I know that sounds easy, but it’s easier said than done. And so, I would encourage you, as the person is talking to you and you know that they have a traumatic brain injury, when you hear these emotions of guilt, let them talk without interruption. Then afterwards, once you find out, you can get them the help they need.
By Chris Brasure
Brasure Law Firm, PLLC was founded by Chris Brasure in 2006. His legal accomplishments are diverse and numerous. He is a fellow with the Texas Bar Foundation, was a delegate in the American Bar Association House of Delegates and holds a BA in political science and speech communication from Baylor University. He then went on to obtain his law degree from Baylor University Law School. Chris believes that education is absolutely critical to one’s success, so his firm now offers The Brasure Law Firm Scholarship to give back to the community and to help students who are seeking to pursue a higher education.